Welcome, Glorious!
I’m a total junkie for self-help/inspiration-focused books. They’re totally my digs and I always love expanding how I can help someone mindset- and body-wise.
So, I figured it was about time I started sharing my lessons from them, with an intuitive hit for you! (MAYBE, just maybe, if you open up, these lessons were meant for your heart and beautiful soul.)
This book was The Curse of The Good Girl by Rachel Simmons.
I didn’t know anything about the author before picking it up, but a few things caught me. First, the title (obviously). Then the speak of raising girls with courage and confidence – who WOULDN’T want that? And while I’m not a parent, I always think of me as raising myself – though I do have fantastic parents! I like to think that as adults, we get to reprogram any aspects we want within ourselves, hence the love for self-help books.
So, I jumped right into this glorious book.
Now I have to admit, I was tired the night I started it. But I did bust into tears by page two (I think that’s a new record!).
So, of course, there was truth in it for me, and I loved the book overall. Here are my biggest take-aways from it:
Lesson One: Live Loudly
Speak what’s on your mind! Be who you are! Be MORE of who you are!
The world needs YOU, absolutely and fully.
So start finding her, and illuminating her for the world to see.
YOU are incredible. So start shining.
This doesn’t mean you have to fake extroversion if you LOVE quiet, you-time most of the time. What it does mean is stop hiding any aspect of yourself. Live who you are, whether you love spending time by yourself or you’re constantly in front of others.
Done? 🙂 Okay!
Lesson Two: Figure Out Where You’ve Been a Good Girl
What were you told good girls were like?
What pictures come to mind about good girls?
What aspects or personality traits do good girls have?
Are you holding yourself back in any way TRYING to be good?
(If so, re-read lesson one and STOP holding your glorious Self back!)
Lesson Three: What Do Bad Girls Do To Get Their Name?
What aspects or personality traits do you think of when you picture a bad girl?
What does she say, act like, dress like or do that makes her “bad”?
Are there any of these traits that you aspire to have more of, enact more with, that you disallow because they’re “bad”?
I thought these two lists alone were SO enlightening. And it was AMAZING what came up for me!
You Are Amazing.
And I for one, would LOVE to see more of you!
You can be wildly courageous and completely confident – that I know for sure! You can shine and stand bright in precisely who you are, and I am SO overjoyed to be able to help you achieve that!
I want to be a great person, but the biggest lesson from this book was that I can take and leave a bunch of aspects and crap rules for living that don’t allow ME to be ME! 🙂
To more of you,
Nathalie
Holistic Nutritionist
I just started this book and yes, it is life changing! I found your post because I wanted to see what others were saying about it. I am raising two girls and I thought it would help me with them, but really it is shedding a lot of light on myself, my friends ships, culture. It says a lot of things I already “knew” but it says them in a way that really hits home for me. I knew that girls and women “need to be perfect” in school, work, with parents, etc but I hadn’t thought too much about how this applies to friendships. I’ve struggled with the feeling that my friendships are not nearly as deep or as quality as I’d like and have been pondering why this is for a long time. There are a lot of things we have going against us in mid-life and as mothers that hinder our own friendships, but this book really nailed it and brought to light something I’ve been searching for for a long time. I’ve got a lot of work to do, and now I have a clear direction to go in!